Becoming a mom has completely changed my life.
I never knew that the kind of love I feel for my two little ones ever existed.
And, until you’re a mom, there is no way to explain it. Really, you can only know about it by experiencing it for yourself.
In addition to the intense love that I feel, I have also learned some new things about myself.
If I weren’t a mom, I don’t think I ever would have learned these five truths that are a reality to my life today.
Each of these things truly register with me from the day I delivered.
Here are my top five mom insights!
1. I Appreciate My Own Mother So Much More
Girls and their mothers have a unique relationship. Unfortunately for my own mom, it was a love-hate kind of relationship that started around the age of 11.
But, after becoming a mother to my daughter, I look at my mom and appreciate her more than I ever did.
You realize how self-less you become. And, you are always putting your child’s needs over your own.
Looking back on it, I am able to remember how much time my mom spent with my brother and I, and how much she worked with us, getting us ready for school.
She really was a positive role model to have in my life and I want that so much for my own children.
Plus, I am able to connect with her on a whole new, mom level. We have a silent understanding of what being a mother is about.
So in a way, I feel as though I joined her club. I’m with her, and no longer against her.
And, I make it a point to thank her often for being such a great mom to me as I was growing up.
2. I Don’t Need to Spend Money to Be Happy
Before I had my little girl, when I’d have spare money on hand, I’d spend it like it was burning a hole in my pocket.
And, I couldn’t even tell you on what. Designer bags, sunglasses, trinkets around the house…my regular weekend routine always involved a day long shopping excursion somewhere.
I thought spending and shopping used to make me happy. But, it turned out that I was filling a void that wasn’t there.
When my daughter arrived, just being around her made me happy, and I learned life isn’t about material objects.
Quality time spent with my two little ones is what matters to me most!
3. I Question Everything
My husband actually pointed out that I became much more inquisitive after our little girl arrived (and unfortunately, not in a good way).
I was constantly questioning everything I was doing as a parent, and as a person. I’m not sure what happened after she arrived that made me so tense and self-doubting.
I’m getting better as she grows, but I’m more aware of if and when I’m doing it now.
I think as a mom, you feel like you should always have all the answers, even though it’s impossible.
Regardless, this is one huge change that has affected the way that I think and act throughout the day.
4. I Am Stronger Than I Thought
After you have a child, you learn that they fully depend on you for everything!
I learned that I have to be strong when my little ones aren’t. So when they cry, or they’re sick, or they’re hurt, or when life just throws someone in our family a lemon, I’ve learned that there’s no room (or time) for weakness.
Becoming the total backbone of my family after I had my kids, I felt as though I could do anything and take on anything with confidence.
5. I Shouldn’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Before my little girl arrived, I used to let little things get to me.
Issues at home, car emergencies, spats with friends, you name it. While these little things will add up over time, it’s how you deal with them that count.
I learned that the small stuff is always going to be there and it’s always going to happen! Life is too short to worry about things that I cannot control.
So, making it my new mantra, I learned that I should never sweat the small stuff and should always live in the moment.
Wrapping It Up
Moms are pretty amazing.
And, as a proud mom, I continue to learn more about myself each day.
Reflecting back over the last three years or so that my two little ones have been with me, I’d say these are the top five things I’ve learned about myself.
If you are a mom or when you become one, maybe your list will look like mine. Or, maybe it will look quite different.
Regardless, be mindful so you are aware of all of the ways your life has changed when your child arrives, especially for the better!
Kate Trout is the blogger behind Maternity Glow, A New Mom’s Guide to Figuring it All Out. She’s a coffee addict, wine drinker, and cheese lover. Oh, and she’s also Mom to the two cutest little kids.