Oftentimes, it can be easy to fall into a rut when it comes to showing those we care about just how much we love them. It's important to try make it a habit to show our loved ones that we appreciate them every day. Sometimes it is the little things that matter the most to a person. Those little things that show a person that they matter and they do cross your mind in the day.
It's The Little Things:
John Van Epp, PhD and founder of Love Thinks, says, “It’s not the big things that make a marriage great, but rather the random acts of kindness that follow the golden rule of relationships: Do unto your partner as your partner would like you to do.” It's the little things we do for one another that can make the biggest impact. Here are three ways to show your loved ones that you love them with simple acts of kindness.
Pay Attention and Act
Actively listening to our loved ones when they talk shows that you care what they have to say. There's a difference between hearing what they say and actively listening to what they say. Actively listening involves paying attention to what the person is saying, engaging in the conversation—beyond the occasional grunt of affirmation—and asking thoughtful, sincere questions that pertain to the subject being discussed. This will help you get a better idea of what they need and what you can do to help.
If you notice they’ve been having a hard time at work lately, try surprising them with an outing or meal they’d enjoy. Express how you feel about and appreciate them. If you know they come home from work with sore feet or muscles, have an at-home spa session set up to help them relax. If you know they often internalize unless specifically asked about their feelings, make yourself available and honored to hear them out. Be excited—or sad or anything in between—with them. The important thing is to notice what and how they’re feeling and then do what you can for them.
Waking up in the morning to a warm breakfast or going outside to head to work in the winter and finding your car already defrosted—just because your partner or loved one wanted to do something nice for you—is a great feeling. So why not help out your loved one with their own morning routine? It shows that you care enough about that person to get up early and go out of your way to do a task so they don’t have to.
You can start small. Brew their favorite coffee or set out their favorite coffee pod while they’re getting ready for the day so it’s ready when they have their breakfast. Scrape the ice off their car so they can be on their way to work. Make a simple gesture that helps out your loved one and starts off their day on the right foot.
Leave Kind Notes
Handwriting notes is slowly becoming a lost art in today’s world of technology and constant digital distraction. Taking the time to write a nice message gives your loved one palpable proof of your relationship and how you feel about them. It can be something as simple as an “I love you” or “have a great day” or be something silly just to make them smile. Don’t be afraid to have fun with your note placement. Hide it in their lunchbox or sneak it onto their pillow before they head to bed for the night. Covertly put them all over their car interior. Finding your note will put a smile on your loved ones face and brighten their day.
You'll be amazed at the positive impact these seemingly small things can make on those you love and your relationship with them. It's one thing to know that we are loved, but it's an entirely different thing to feel and see that love in action. The little things that we do for those we love go a long way in maintaining healthy relationships.