There’s nothing more frustrating than falling for someone, but just not being able to see that love reciprocated. The dating world today is complicated, and continues to be so through a callous dating world that relies far too heavily on apps and websites to make a genuine connection. However, that doesn’t mean there is a reason to despair. Love and dating, just like anything else in life, is something that takes time and practice to get right, and people’s feelings are able to change over time, if those things are what really matter to you. If he’s not in love with you (or her, depending on your situation), here are some tips on how you can change that…
Converse a little deeper
Although the thrill of flirting is great fun and can be a wonderful challenge in wit and tact, the surface level nature of it can get dull, after a while. If you want to really attract someone and attach to them, you’re going to need to break out of the humdrum that only flirting will bring, and you’re going to need to take your conversation to deeper places. These are the areas that we find out more about who people actually are, and the things about them that make them special to us, and us to them. Honestly, without these conversations early on, there’s little reason to even want someone to fall for you, all that badly.
Dress nicely, and honestly
Although this might seem a little shallow, the clothes that people choose to wear say a lot about them, so don’t be surprised when a person doesn’t show much interest in you when you wear a pair of frumpy clothes that you scraped off your bathroom floor. Putting a little bit of effort into how you look makes you seem more put together, and well-rounded as a person. On the other hand, people who don’t do this will seem messy and in disarray. However, although you want to look good, don’t try to just wear the nice clothes that everyone else is wearing. Dressing honestly and being yourself is just as important, so that you are able to express who you are and what you are actually like. Letting your personality shine is something that must be done early on, so that you don’t seem fake later in the dating process.
Turn up your hygiene
This goes for guys, gals, and everyone. Unless your partner lost their sense of smell in a freak accident, bad hygiene will almost certainly cost you your love life. Taking proper care of yourself and being able to bathe and clean yourself properly is one of the keystones of being an adult. Honestly, if you can’t do this for yourself, at the moment, then you aren’t in any place to be entering a relationship until you are able to develop a little more, as a person. While cleanliness is the main part of having good hygiene, putting a little extra mile in for the dating world is also a huge plus. This means making sure that you smell nice, and are pleasant to be around, physically. One way that many people do this, as shown in this article here, is by using natural aphrodisiacs that increase attraction in people through smell.
Don’t hold onto things
In the end, if you aren’t able to successfully attract the person that you thought you wanted with all your heart, then move on. You can’t actually force anyone to fall in love with you, but you can control your own actions and steer your personal growth. Not only will obsessing over someone make them even less likely to reciprocate your feelings, but it also reveals a stronger issue in your personality that you need to work out: let go of the past. Being able to let go of things and accept that the past doesn’t dominate their life is a trait that is incredibly attractive in a long-term partner. As this article here points out, learning to let go of things in the past can lead to a far more fulfilling life in many aspects.
Aleksander enjoys wandering the great outdoors and thinking about the ailments that bring ill upon society. A typical day in his life may include learning a dead language, teaching unfortunate children to paint their feelings on canvas, or wiping the sweat from his brow as he finishes work in an immaculate garden. Currently, Aleksandre enjoys writing on a variety of topics for various sites around the interwebs.