Surrogacy is an alternative to natural birthing where couples who are unable to conceive are given a whole lot of new possibilities. Even famous celebrities have openly admitted to using surrogacy like Nicole Kidman and Sarah Jessica Parker among many. It has been well received by couples looking to complete their family because unlike adoption, the intended parents are able to be genetically linked to the child.
It’s a highly sensitive process as it involves life, both of the surrogate mother and child. It is important that one does careful research when considering this option.
Here are 3 important things to know about Surrogacy:
Surrogacy is Expensive.
Compared to adoption where the adoptive parents support the natural birth mother of birthing expenses, intended parents in Surrogacy pays for everything from start to end. You will need to take care of hospital costs, IVF fees, agency fees, surrogate mother compensation and expenses that will cover for the health and wellness of the surrogate mother and the baby. In the US, it can cost between $60,000 to $170,000. The last thing you need to worry about in this highly emotional process are expenses, so make sure that you are financially capable and ready for the journey ahead.
Choose a reputable surrogacy agency.
Surrogacy undergoes a lot of processes that experts can take care of for you. Finding the right surrogacy agency to partner with would help weed out the unnecessary processes and help you find a surrogate mother that would be a good match to carry your baby. The agency will help facilitate this matching and recommend an IVF clinic to perform the insemination. The agency also takes care of processing the pre-birth order for you to be recognized as the legal parent after birth.
Have a solid support system.
There will be unsuccessful matches along the way, with the surrogate mother or with the insemination process. You need to be both emotionally and financially ready for this roller coaster ride. It’s important to have a solid support system to help you during the tough moments. Remember, nothing worth having ever comes easily.
So when you’re thinking of surrogacy to help build your family, make sure to do your research and find the right partners and support system during this journey. It will require tons of patience and an open mind, some limits may be tested so remember to keep calm and imagine seeing your baby at the end of the journey. Believe me, it will be worth it in the end. I know, I’ve been there.