Have you ever wondered what happens during the day for someone else?
Wondered what it would be like to spend a day in their shoes?
Now is your chance!
Welcome to A Day In The Life, a new series that shows you what a day is like for someone else! To take a walk in their shoes, so to speak.
I’ve always been a big fan of schedules. Actually, I should say routine since we don’t always follow a perfectly timed out schedule. My week is full of routine and we do the same routine every week. My mother thinks I’m crazy neurotic, but I like routine because it gives me a sense of predictability. On the downside, I do tend to get a little upset when something interferes with my routine. Let’s just say I’m not a fan of surprises. Calendars are my best friend and I don’t tend to roll with the punches. Here is a glance at my routine with my 21 month old son and my big pregnant belly. Our routine has changed a lot since I got pregnant and had terrible morning sickness and I’m trying to come to terms with the fact that it will change all over again when my second son arrives in April.
5:30-6:30 a.m. My son starts to whine and cry in his bed. Sometimes he goes back to sleep, sometimes he demands to get up, other times we bring him into bed with us until 6:30. I don’t usually get out of bed until 6:30 unless the little man is crying uncontrollably because he needs to be fed.
6:30-7:00 a.m. The little man helps make coffee for me and coconut milk and a toaster waffle for him. We wake up to a DVRed episode of Mickey Mouse Clubhouse while I sip on coffee and play on my phone. I usually sneak back into the kitchen so I can have a breakfast appetizer of something sweet like a doughnut, a cupcake, a piece of cake, anything sweet! I never have a sweet tooth unless I’m pregnant so I take full advantage of it while I can. If my toddler spots me, I quickly tell him that it is all gone, even when it isn’t.
7:00-7:30 a.m. We wake up my husband and do a healthy breakfast. If we are feeling very lazy we will eat breakfast on the couch and watch the news. Once upon a time when I wasn’t pregnant, I would make large breakfasts for the family and we would all eat at the table. Now that I’m exhausted all the time I take full advantage of the opportunity to veg on the couch as long as possible before the rush of the day starts.
7:30-8:30 a.m. My son follows my husband around while he gets ready for work. I clean the kitchen and start the daily household chores. I also sneak in a few more bites of something sweet while the toddler is occupied. A pregnant woman needs her breakfast dessert, right? The little man helps me make the bed and then demands to be cuddled on the freshly made bed while dad finishes getting ready.
8:30 a.m. We say goodbye to my husband and finish getting ready ourselves. By ready, I mean I put on a fresh pair of yoga pants and a little bit of make-up to make it look like I worked out, even though I didn’t. The nice maternity clothes that I have are reserved for church or special outings. It’s hard to get motivated to put on real clothes when I know they will promptly be destroyed by peanut butter, boogers and toddler pee and poop. Yoga pants are so much easier, and stretchy enough for the bump.
9:00 a.m. We attempt to get out of the house. On Mondays we do grocery errands, Tuesdays-Thursdays we try to do a fun outside activity such as the park or the beach, and on Fridays we meet a group of friends at the park. Sometimes we sign up for story time at the library or do story time at Barnes and Nobles. If it’s raining or the little man is content playing with his toys at home, we will stay home. About 7 months ago we spent our mornings at the gym, now that I’m pregnant I have no energy and I’m not about to waste the small amount I have at the gym. We had a pretty predictable schedule at the gym too and I did the same classes at the same time every week. I understand that working out gives some people energy, but I’m not there yet. I’m trying to take advantage of all the one on one time with my toddler before we become a family of four!
If we stay home during this time I’ll hop on the computer and try to do some work for my blog such as catch up on emails and share on social media. I try to fit in a healthy snack for both of us in the morning. We’ll do fruit or a fruit smoothie. I aim to get my son to eat an apple, a banana and a clementine every day while I gorge on the sweets behind his back.
11:30 a.m. We always aim to be home by this time just in case my son needs an early nap. I usually let him watch a little bit of Sesame Street or Preschool Prep while I prepare lunch or hop on the computer to take care of any bills, emails or blog related work.
12:30ish p.m. My husband comes home for lunch and we attempt to eat together. We can never tell what time he will be home so sometimes my son and I eat without him or I’ll eat while the little guy plays.
1:00-3:00 p.m. This is the most dependable nap time I have. While I am a huge fan of routine, we don’t always take a nap right at this time. I try to let my son’s behavior dictate naptime. Luckily since I’ve always been a fan of routine he is usually asleep at this time. This is when I get the bulk of my blog work completed. I also use this time to finish up any big chores around the house such as laundry or dinner prep. Of course, I also use this time to squeeze in another sweet snack for the pregnant belly. When I was pregnant the first time around, I was so careful to exercise and eat well. Things sure do change with the second! No Fit Pregnancy subscription this time around. I figure if I get in a few veggies everyday it will negate all the sweets. I need to remember to go lightly on the sweets and carbs next week since they are testing me for gestational diabetes. I should probably put a reminder in my phone for that…
3:00 p.m. -5:00 p.m. Afternoon activity time! On Mondays we finish up our errands and chores. On Tuesdays we have friends over for a playdate. Wednesdays are set aside for more chores and errands. On Thursdays we meet our playdate group at the Children’s museum and Fridays are a free for all where we either prep food for the weekend or hang out with the playdate group. Of course this is all subject to change depending on naps and chores that need to be done around the house. When we don’t have anything planned we use this time for crafts such as playdough or baking. My little man loves to help me bake and cook!
5:00- 6:00 p.m. If we’ve been out of the house all afternoon we usually come home and veg on the couch or in a fort. My son loves to make forts and dance in them. During fort time he usually demands that I hang out in there with him which really cuts into dinner prep time. This is why I usually try to prep dinner during nap time! If dinner isn’t prepped I bribe my son to sit still by letting him watch Preschool Prep again or play on the iPad. As much as he loves to help me cook, he won’t tolerate it this late at night. This is his witching hour! It gets so bad that most nights we do crock pot meals so I don’t have to deal with his fussiness. It’s much easier to give in and play with him than to make him cry over dinner prep. Before I was pregnant with my second, this was prime happy hour time. A little wine makes witching hour so much easier!
6:00/6:30 ish p.m. My husband comes home and we attempt to eat dinner together. Once again, we can’t always do this is he is late or if my son gets hungry too early.
After dinner: We go for a quick walk around our neighborhood so my son can go “moon hunting”. This is by far my favorite time of the day. It gives me a chance to catch up with my husband and I get a tiny bit of exercise. This pregnancy has been really rough for me and I never have energy. Lucky for me, my husband walks slow with me and lets me take my time.
7:15-7:30 p.m. My husband gives the little man a bath every other night while I clean up the kitchen and wrap up all the daily chores. If it isn’t a bath night we usually hang out in the living room and play for a few more minutes.
7:30-8:00 p.m. We all lay down together to read books in my son’s room. I stay for a little bit and then let my husband finish up the routine so they can have some alone time. I usually try to wrap up any blog work that isn’t finished and shut down my computer. On weekends I use this time to meal plan and set up my coupons for the week. As much as I’d love to work on my blog at night once my son is in bed, I know the work will keep me up. Instead, I try to wind down. I like that my husband takes the lead on bedtime because it will make taking care of the new baby so much easier.
8:00- 9:00 p.m. My husband and I usually catch up on shows while I finish craft projects. I love crafting and find that doing it in front of the TV at night is so much easier than attempting crafts with a toddler during the day. It’s a great way for me to relax. You’re probably not surprised to find that we have a TV routine too! Mondays we watch Gotham, Tuesdays it’s Master Chef Juniors (OMG- those kids can cook), Wednesdays we do Modern Family, Thursdays are my favorite nights because we (and by we, I mean I) watch all the ABC Shonda shows and stay up late, and finally on Fridays we watch Shark Tank. We are pretty predictable. No surprises here. If nothing is on or it’s a rerun, we usually find something fun on Netflix.
9:00 p.m. I usually head to the bedroom with a cup of sleepytime tea and a sweet snack, usually something related to Trader Joe’s cookie butter. Chocolate gives me such bad heartburn when I’m pregnant I take my time getting ready for bed and then I lounge around and read for a few minutes. I aim to be asleep anywhere between 9:30 and 10. My nights are filled with at least 2 wake ups to empty my pregnant bladder so I try to get as much shut eye as I can. I know that in a few weeks I’ll have a newborn on my hands and I’ll be getting very little sleep. Since I’m not a napper, I’ve got to get my z’s at some point!
I realize that all of this is about to get crazy with the addition of a newborn. I’ll probably have a hard time with the change in routine and once I get used to the new routine of a newborn things will change again since babies change nap schedules so quickly. The only constant I’ve found in motherhood is change, which is probably why I cling onto my routine so tightly!
Hannah Rinaldi blogs about balancing the finer things in life with a budget at Eat, Drink and Save Money. She firmly believes that you can eat well and live comfortably while maintaining a budget and saving for the future. She and her husband have a goal to pay off their education debt by 2017 and are on their way to living debt free. Hannah stays at home with her 20 month old son and is expecting her second son in April.