Sometimes it seems like our kids are the best things in our lives. Sometimes it seems like they’re the most annoying. No matter what mood they’re currently putting us in, our kids are our biggest adventure, and we’d do anything for them. That desire to give our kids the best is deep-rooted. As parents, sometimes it helps to slow down and ask, “What should I be doing for my kids? What should I not be doing?”
Some parents spoil their kids. They give them too much of what they want. We’ve all been to the party where some holy terrors are running around, loud, and commandeering the event. We cringe and wonder what those parents did to overindulge their children. We vow that we are not going to raise our kids to be the same way, and in at attempt to not spoil them, we seldom give them what they want. Sometimes, though, giving the best to our kids means occasionally surprising them with their heart’s desire. A good gift doesn’t mean a spoiled kid. Sometimes it’s okay to get those Wicked tickets or Miken Softball Bats. If they’re really longing for it, don’t deny them everything for the sake of raising them right. They’ll still turn out okay, and they’ll know you care.
Another way you can give the best to your kids is to catch their physical needs at just the right time. Some parents rush their kids into the orthodontist at too young an age, worried about their appearance, but the teeth slide back before puberty hits, rendering the silver teeth their child went through partially useless. Some parents wait too late, or ignore their children’s teeth entirely, letting their graduated teenager cover the cost of fixing his or her mouth. Most kids have some physical need or another, and most require braces. Make sure you have your child’s best interests at heart when it comes to orthodontic care. Orthodontics in Newark and New Brunswick, NJ, and Peoria, IL, and anywhere in between will have the proper care to get your teen a better smile.
Last, but not least, give the best to your kids by giving them responsibility. A teen whose only consequence for staying out late is having her phone taken away is hardly prepared for the real life that’s about to hit her in a few months. The more your kids are responsible for, (their spending money, their bills, their lunches, and free time) the better equipped they’ll be to handle a tough world. Some parents interpret love as doing more for their kids, but often, love is letting your kids do as much as possible for themselves. You want them to be safe, but barring that, they should be operating independently by the time they’re eighteen. The more independence you give them, the more they’ll rise in maturity and peace of mind to meet that. Most parent-child conflict in the teenage years is just a blooming adult wanting to be treated like one. Their freedom is your gift of respect. Respect always nurtures, and you’ll be giving your kids the best as you raise them to be healthy human beings.