This weekend, my husband and I finally got the chance to be alone, together, with no kids, for the first time in a couple of years, because my in-laws took the kids. We did what any couple, married for a decade or more, would. We went on a lunch date, we day drank while painting (adulting), we napped, we at pizza rolls for dinner and of course, we burned through the entire first season of the Santa Clarita Diet on Netflix. However, it wasn’t until Sunday night, while inserting tiny temporary tattoos into my kindergartener’s Tsum Tsum Valentines, that I realized what an undead Drew Barrymore and her ID had taught me about self-care.
In the Santa Clarita Diet, Drew Barrymore and Timothy Olyphant star as married realtors, Sheila and Joel, who are living a quiet life, raising their teenage daughter in Santa Clarita, Calif. Their world unexpectedly changes when Sheila goes through a dramatic transformation that sends her down a road of death and destruction — but leaves her looking and feeling better than ever. Basically, she dies, becomes undead and is completely driven by her ID. (Inner Desires)
The ID is the source of our bodily needs, wants, desires, and impulses, particularly our sexual and aggressive drives. The id contains the libido, which is the primary source of instinctual force that is unresponsive to the demands of reality.
I’ve noticed, that as I’ve gotten older, I’ve ignored my ID more and more. When I was younger, I would write poetry and I wanted to be an actress. I would stay up for days at a time and go on spontaneous road trips! Now, I write out school Valentines and barely like people. I can hardly stay up for a whole day and none of my trips are spontaneous.
Now, I know that I can’t start eating people and I can’t go out and buy and Range Rover, just because. (My credit score ain’t havin’ that and I don’t have awesome equity like they do in the show.) I also know that I can’t be completely driven by my ID, but if I keep ignoring it, it might drive me crazy.
Basically, I realized that I do have to give into more of my wants and desires. Do the things that make me feel good, that make me feel happy and isn’t that what self-care is about? Making ourselves feel good and being our best selves?
I think, for me, my road to self-care and being my best self will come with embracing, instead of ignoring my ID. I need to do more for me. I need to take my wants and desires into account, as much as I do others.
Thank you undead Drew Barrymore and the Santa Clarita Diet for reminding me that my ID is part of my self-care.